Dear Firstborn Daughter,
it is true we often grow up as the family's pioneers, the ones who break ground and set standards.
We become the second mother, the responsible one, the achiever. While these roles can build strength, they can also create deep-seated patterns that need gentle unraveling:
It is true that we carry the weight of expectations. We tasted the fear, anger, and excitement of our parents' first trial at parenting.
We carry the burden of perfectionism, and the scars of shouldering responsibilities beyond our years. We are the firstborn daughter, a role that often comes with both privilege and pain.
But know this: you are worthy of love, of healing, and of a love that understands the depth of your soul.
You are worthy of everything great as an ambitious woman as well.
You can get that love that mends. The love that sees you, truly sees you. A love that doesn't demand perfection but embraces your flaws, your vulnerabilities, and your unique journey.
A love that understands the weight you carry and offers you a safe space to rest, to be vulnerable, and to simply be yourself.
You shall get that partner that sees loving you as a privilege because he is your steadfast rock, your unwavering support system.
He believes in your dreams, cheers your successes, and comforts you in your failures. Your partner understands the complexities of your heart, the depths of your emotions, and the weight of your past. They approach you with gentle understanding, never judgment.
They provide you guidance with patience and wisdom, offer you gentle nudges and unwavering belief in your potential. They celebrate your growth, no matter how small.
Your partner isn’t afraid to show tenderness and be vulnerable with you. They create a space where you both share your deepest fears and dreams.
You have carried a lot and your healing journey is a unique one. Whatever wounds you heal, don't forget to nurture your soul.
Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a dear friend. Surround yourself with loving and supportive people who uplift you.
Prioritize activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Accept that you are human, and that's perfectly okay. Learn to say no and prioritize your needs and values.
If you stand passionately for something, say it all out loud and let people see it well. You are worthy of everything good babes. That healing thriving love and friendship that celebrates the extraordinary woman you are becoming.
With love and understanding,
Your fellow babygurl.
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Thank you for this.
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