12 days in; floating, lessons, grace
“Oh Winnie but good men exist!” my friend said to me on Tuesday.
Dearest reader,
Happy New Year to you and yours. I wish you a healthy year all around. May you be healthy and may your loved ones be sound as well. Reality set in for me when I noticed all the Christmas decorations had been cleared-- telling us we're back to business. Here's what it's been like the past 12 days.
On the week
“Oh Winnie but good men exist!” my friend said to me on Tuesday.
“And how come you haven't met them? How come you who believe this cry every month over how the last man treated you and you still have the courage to pour your love on another supposedly “good man,” I said.
Mind you I never said there were no good men, I told her love wasn’t in my plans. I’m content as I am and she felt it must have stemmed from some hurt. I just like my own company and I enjoy being alone, I like my solo dates by myself. So I didn’t argue further because she might not understand.
“It is your eyes that make them good, so keep believing,” I said, again. I view no one as good in totality, most people have what they wish to benefit from you, and you too sometimes have what you want to get out too. Be it their love or attention it doesn't make the bargain pure. There's a giving and getting happening. When that doesn't happen your heart breaks. Sorry.
The only thing that consistently tries to frustrate me is not having the money I want in the abundance that I should. I love planning for my money even when I have a million I would still plan. I work for my money so I am trying to take care of it better this year.
On lessons
People tell me their choices and decisions, I remain ever supportive of them. But when I utter mine, especially concerning marriage it turns into a debate. They want to convince me so badly that “good men exist.” Yes, I agree, good men exist. Now, go find them and let me be. I send you Cupid's love and dust so you don't kiss many frogs on your search.
We, our generation, might be worse than our parents. Do you know how that aunty who never had a sweet marriage actively pesters you to go and marry? Or body shame you every chance they get? Yes, that may be a lot of youths now. Not respecting people's choices after shouting boundaries everywhere on social media.
If you don't believe in things the majority of people believe in, it's best to keep quiet and do you. But if you have energy, please speak up!
Keep taking care of yourself because it makes you ecstatic.
Money is important, so always have an abundance mindset regarding money.
I want the simple things of life but in a way that exudes opulence.
I am a slow bloomer. I take my time. My blessings take time and that's okay. When they come they'll be for me and I will use them well.
I am not humble. I will take up space as I ought to.
When karma hits back at people who do wrong, I am happy. No wonder revenge dramas make me elated when the unjustly wronged takes his or her pound of flesh.
People are miserable and frustrated a lot these days. Please don't allow them to drag you inside. Stay jiggy. Apologize as you should but don't forget to change it for anybody.
I'll be serious next month. This month I am using it to define a lot of things. I have lost an income and I feel the gap in my work schedule, my planning, and my living. I realized I wasn't prepared like that. I am allowing myself to define and process things while I pray to the powers that be to keep me grounded.
Nobody’s relationship is goals.
On goals
Get an MTN router
Get a Virtual Dollar card because Odin will punish Payday for holding my funds when they can't give me a virtual dollar card or refund my money back.
Find good shawarma to eat with chilled Coca-Cola.
Get my hair products before January ends.
Begin my Fintribe savings.
Find myself urgent $700
Give me grace.
On butterflies
I get intense butterflies when I receive dollars. 💸
On work
Handling people is a sport I hope to excel at. I am still finding it hard to work at a normal pace. I am used to working three jobs and having numerous side gigs. Now it is flat. I miss the high I get from dividing my attention. Now, giving my attention to one thing is a bit harder for me. Especially the planning with limited funds now.
Exciting job prospects
Consulting Manager (Logistics & Distribution) at Deloitte (South Africa)
Associate Director (Technology & Transformation at Deloitte (South Africa)
Favorite music this week
Who I Am - Alan Walker, Putri Ariani, Peder Elias:
Movie Recommendations
Gyeongseong Creature on Netflix. You might not understand it if you don't want Kdramas but it is a thriller movie so watch it when that "try something new" wave hits.
Concluding note
Somehow we've collectively agreed the theme for this year is "No gree for anybody," on that note no gree for self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and all loads of negativity this year. Give yourself grace. Be like the shark, soft but fearsome protecting your boundaries so you keep the joy in your life.
Don't forget to take breaks as you work too, seeing the suicide story of the girl who died at the bank leaving such a sad note gave me chills. I grieve with her family and friends. The pressure to make money and meet some company targets can easily make a work turn toxic so don't lose yourself. Make a conscious effort to come back home to yourself every evening as you leave work.
Have a happy weekend, and don't forget to have a work/life balance, let's not keep shouting about mental health awareness but protect it fiercely. Share the opportunities with anyone searching for a job.
With love,
Winifred 🦋🐞
How am I just finding this? I love it Winnie.
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